BLOG NUMBER 5 CONT...

Sacrifice vs. Sharing

 

  In happier the author talks a lot about the way a person can sacrafice and sharing can improve ones happines. By helping others one can make themselves feel better about themselves. I honestly belive that if you do something nice to someone it will come back to you in some from of way. The other day for instence i was waiting for the train. THe train came and i saw all the passengers were on the oppitsite side of the train cart. i saw that there was a homless man or woman sitting there and i was wondering "what if that was me?". So i took my northfsce coat off and gave it to him or her. HE/she didnt even notice that i gave it to them . i didnt even get a thank you  and that mad my action even more rewardable and i was extremly happy after words.

 

THE CORE SELF

 

  The core self as explained in happier is a persons side that not isnt visable to everyones eyes. It is a persons deep inner feelings and beliefs. Like me, i am a very loving person. I am very caring.And I am a very fun and joyfull person to be around. Those are all prime examples of my core self. Now not everyones coreself is going to be positive. A person can have a greedy,hateful,neglectful core self.

 

BLOG NUMBER 5

Cultivating vs Finding

      Do you spend alot of time looking for someone who is perfect for you? Dont you think that it would be easier to make that person. Well in the article happiness in relationships the author talks about the differnces in cultivating a relationship or finding the perfect macth.Cultivating in a sense means that you are trying to work with what you have to make it a great relationship. The author arguees that working on and building a relationship is better than searching for the right one and keep on getting disapointed.I feel that a person is better off trying to build a relationship. The reason i say that is because it will build something much more than just love, but trust devotion and most importantly a friendship.

 

 

 

 

 

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Timothy Giral

   “A person who believes
that they can be truly healthy but not happy isn’t truly happy.”(Timothy Giral)

          With all this medicine out there people rely
on them solely to feel better when getting sick. Is medicine the only thing
that can better the way you feel? I feel that a person’s happiness level can play
an important role in someone’s health. I am not the only person who seems to believe
that when a person has a cold and are exposed to laughter can make a person
feel better than someone who has no reason to laugh. Also how laughter can make
you feel better and forget about your personal problems. Also how fun and
laughter can help a person feel better from the intensity of waiting for a
shot. To someone with cancer living longer because of a happier environment.

     If a person has a
cold or isn’t feeling good it is always good to try to get there mind off their
sickness. Let’s say you have a cold or even a fever if you decide to stay in
your house all the time it may feel depressing. Then doing something, which
will put a smile on your face to get your mind off of being sick. I myself even
tested this out. It was so ironic that when I had to read the laughing guru I got
sick. I remembered what Richard Mulcaster a humanist educator believed. “Laughter
produced warmth throughout the body and was a good antidote for colds, headaches
and bouts of melancholy.” He believed. And I did exactly what he suggested. I watch
my favorite comedy movie of all times “The Hangover” and it didn’t cure my cold
but I defiantly felt much better. Also if you are going through hard or
emotional time laughter can be a big help in getting through it.

    Times when a
person can barely pay the bills because your job let you go. Or when you are
having problems with your girlfriend is getting to the point where it is
affecting the way you feel. If you just simply apply all that negative thoughts
and energy to something positive you will feel much better. For instants “laughing
yoga’’ as described in the laughing guru. It is a form of yoga that you force
yourself to laugh and eventually it will turn to a natural laugh. Which will
make you feel better. Also let’s say you bring your child to a doctor’s office
to get a shot and they know what’s about to happen. Do think the comfort level
of your child would be good if they were just sitting there waiting for the
shots. Or being able to play with toys will allow them to cope with the intensity
of getting a shot by getting their mind off of it? In the pathologies of hope
article by Barbara Ehrenreich states that it is better to have a positive outlook
on things so it can go by better. Also I can have to do with the environment
you are in.

   Lets say you were a
cancer patient and you have no reason to believe that you still have a chance
to live. And you are in a very depressing area why would you want to live. A person
in a hospital with people dying all around them how you would be able to cope
with it when you feel like you’ll be next. Wouldn’t you want to be in a place
where you would want to wake up in everyday? In the movie Patch  Adams , a ex mental patient realizes that a
person if happy is able to overcome a lot of issues while sick. He secretly
opens up his own hospital not only to help them medically but to offer them
hope and happiness while doing so. And this movie is a great source to make
people belive that being happier can make you healthier.

   A person’s
happiness can play a major role in a person’s health. By laughing and thinking
positive it can get you by easier and healthier. Also how doing things to get
your mind of off problems can help you get by. I feel that everyone has the
power to make someone happier.

thesis and sourse

In many ways happiness plays a major role in a persons health.

http://psychcentral.com/news/2006/11/07/happiness-enhances-health/392.html

TIMOTHY GIRAL

ENGLISH 101

                Everyone is searching for someone to love. People believe that there is someone out there for everyone. Now, the thing about that is that there are over eight billion people in this world. So, what happens if the person that is right for you is all the way in Japan and you are here in New York? My answers to that one is stop looking for the perfect match and try to find someone you can grow with and build a type of relationship using “THE SCIENCE OF HAPPINES”. The science of happiness is excluding things that may have a negative impact on your happiness and replacing it with something with a positive impact .By applying the science to a newly established relationship can multiply the positive outcomes of the relationship and make both parties happier people. A couple can have a healthier relationship by avoiding fights. Also growing as a couple and building an unconditional love from both sides of the relationship.

Being happy in life is every ones goal. Achieving happiness on the other hand takes a lot of work. To most people the idea of wanting to have a person to love them is an important  aspect in life. In a relationship there would definitely be problems if you aren’t happy. if you feel that you aren’t happy there is many things that you can do to make it work. The science of happiness consists of many things. Such as hot and cold states. If a person is upset In a relationship is upset and starts an argument and it builds up to a big fight. They must be careful with what they say because they are in a hot sate. Instead of not arguing and then waiting till they cool off and have a normal conversation in a cold state.” It sounds like a goof, but it gets at the fundamental difference between how we behave in a “HOT STATE” (those of anxiety, courage, and fear)and “COLD STATES”OF RATIONAL CALM”(STATED BY LOEWIENSTIEIN in a futile pursuit of happiness.) Unless you have a healthy relationship you will not be able to be happy. So, if you feel  that your relationship isn’t healthy you can cultivate it by using ,most of the approaches given.

Everyone has their flaws. its how you cope with them and if you are willing to adapt to those flaws. Like in my current relationship me and my partner have this type of relationship that we think that each of our flaws are funny to one another. It can get on either one of our nerves but we don’t let it affect us to the point where we aren’t happy with each other. Now the problem that lies in my relationship is that we don’t agree on certain things. Such as who is more mature, who is right, and who is wrong. Ever since I began my journey with Dr. McCormick I have learned how to apply everything I have learned in class to my relationship. In cultivating my relationship I have found that sometimes you must put aside your differences in the relationship. I see my relationship as a story I will be able to tell one day in the future and I know that we are still young. But we also are growing together as friends.” The mistaken notion that finding love guarantees eternal bliss and leads partners to neglect the journey.” (A statement in happiness in a relationship) . I strongly agree with that statement because people just look for what is perfect for them and miss out on the fun quality times in getting to know your partner. Gaining the ability to give and receive unconditional love.

When somebody loves you for who you are and nothing else that is called unconditional love. See this comes rarely almost never honestly speaking. First a person must build up so much love for another person and spend time with them. I feel if you get to the point of unconditional love you have reached the point of your relationship that you can be truly happy in the relationship aspect. Some people believe that it is a myth .” when a man falls in love with a woman, he does so for certain conscious or unconscious reasons.( stated in the unconditional love part of happiness in relationships)” meaning you don’t know that you have that type of love you just do. I feel that if you cultivate and use the method talked in this paper you can achieve happiness in your relationship. You just have to work on it.

By applying the science of happiness to your relationship you can go far in that relationship. By using the scientific method you can increase your happiness. Also by cultivating a relationship  can bring unconditional love.it all takes time and effort. One must be patient and don’t expect it to happen so soon. Remember Rome wasn’t built in a day.

WORK CITED

1 A FUITLE PURSUIT  OF HAPPINESS by DAN GILBERT\

2 HAPPIER IN COURSE PACKET.

thank you

TIMOTHY GIRAL

BLOG NUMBER 6

  

         Around this time of year I always get ask the same question. “What are you thankful for?” I never really thought about it till now because I have to think about it for my blog. There are many things that I can say I am thankful for first is my family. Without my family I honestly have nothing to live for. I am thankful that my family stood by my side through all my ups and downs. Another blessing in my life is that I can actually go to college and experience things that some people can’t for different reasons. Also I can say that I am thankful for life. Life can be a beautiful thing you just got to play your cards right. I feel that a lot of people don’t live their lives to the fullest potential. Now that im older it is time for me to give back to the world for treating me so well.

oh happy day,,,,,

TIMOTHY GIRAL

ENGLISH 101

                Everyone
is searching for someone to love. People believe that there is someone out
there for everyone. Now, the thing about that is that there is over eight
billion people in this world. So, what happens if the person that is right for
you is all the way in Japan and you are here in New York? My answer to that one
is stop looking for the perfect match and try to find someone you can grow with
and build a type of relationship using “THE SCIENCE OF HAPPINES”. By applying
the science to a newly established relationship can multiply the positive outcomes
of the relationship and make both parties happier people. A couple can have  a healthier relationship by avoiding fights. Also
growing as a couple and building an unconditional love from both sides of the
relationship.

Being happy in life is every ones
goal. Achieving  happiness on the other
hand takes a lot of work. To most people the idea of wanting  to have a person  To love them is an important  aspect in life. In a relationship there would
definitely be problems if you aren’t happy. if you feel that you aren’t happy
there is many things that you can do to make it work. The science of happiness
consist of many things. Such as hot and cold states. If a person is upset In a
relationship is upset and starts an argument and it builds up to a big fight. They
must be careful with what they say because they are in a hot sate. Instead of
not arguing and then waiting till they cool off and have a normal conversation in
a cold state.” It sounds like a goof, but it gets at the fundamental difference
between how we behave in a “HOT STATE” (those of anxiety, courage, and fear)and
“COLD STATES”OF RATIONAL CALM”(STATED BY LOEWIENSTIEIN in a futile pursuit of
happiness.) Unless you have a healthy relationship you will not be able to be
happy. So, if you feel  that your
relationship isn’t healthy you can cultivate it by using ,most of the approaches
given.

Everyone has their flaws. its how
you cope with them and if you are willing to adapt to those flaws. Like in my
current relationship me and my partner have this type of relationship that we
think that each of our flaws are funny to one another. It can get on either one
of our nerves but we don’t let it affect us to the point where we aren’t happy
with each other. Now the problem that lies in my relationship is that we don’t agree
on certain things. Such as who is more mature, who is right, and who is wrong. Ever
since I began my journey with Dr. McCormick I have learned how to apply
everything I have learned in class to my relationship. In cultivating my
relationship I have found  that some
times you must put aside your differences in the relationship. I see my relationship
as a story I will be able to tell one day in the future and I know that we are still
young. But we also are growing together as friends.” The mistaken notion that
finding love guarantees eternal bliss and leads partners to neglect the journey.”
(A statement in happiness in a relationship) . I strongly agree with that
statement because people just look for what is perfect for them and miss out on
the fun quality times in getting to know your partner. Gaining the ability to
give and receive unconditional love.

When somebody loves you for who you
are and nothing else that is called unconditional love. See this comes rarely almost
never honestly speaking. First a person must build up so much love for another
person and spend time with them. I feel if you get to the point of
unconditional love you have reached the point of your relationship that you can
be truly happy in the relationship aspect. Some people belive that it is a myth
.” when a man falls in love with a woman, he does so for certain conscious or
unconscious reasons.( stated in the unconditional love part of happiness in
relationships)” meaning you don’t know that you have that type of love you just
do. I feel that if you cultivate and use the method talked in this paper you
can achieve happiness in your relationship. You just have to work on it.

By applying the science of happiness
to your relationship you can go far in that relationship. By using the
scientific method you can increase your happiness. Also by cultivating a
relationship  can bring unconditional love.it
all takes time and effort. One must be patient and don’t expect it to happen so
soon. Remember rome wasent built in a day.